Leave Your Spouse While You’re still in Love – Part 3

DO YOU KINDLE? If so, would you please part with 99 cents and download my first Kindle “mini-book”experiment? It’s titled Blessing, Grace, and Incarnation: The Foundations of the Spiritual Marriage and Family.  I’m looking for additional ways to fund the The Waco Foundation for Mental Health Care, and so your feedback on this first project [...]

Leave Your Spouse While You’re still in Love – Part 2

Thank you for your comments and questions on my last entry (some left on the blog, some emailed to me).  Many of you said that you could relate to my experience, and the question most raised was something like, “But how can we actually move back toward Love?”
The process is, in my opinion, theoretically simple, [...]

Leave Your Spouse While You are Still in Love – Part 1

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A few years ago I thought I might want to leave my marriage. During a struggle that lasted over a year, only one person ever said to me, “You mustn’t do that.”
It wasn’t any of my friends.
…..It wasn’t any of my family members,
……….It wasn’t my pastor,
……………nor were any of my in-laws this straightforward.

The only person [...]

Responses to “Marriage as Formation”

Greetings from beautiful Leakey, Texas, a tiny burg that lies along the Frio River. My family has been spending the week of the fourth with a passle of friends from Austin for nearly 15 years!

I received more comments on my last blog entry, Marriage as Formation, than on anything I’ve written so far. Some of [...]

Marriage As Formation

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Marriage as Formation
“I marry in order to mature.”
In previous blog entries I’ve suggested that people marry for different reasons (duh) and that it can be helpful to understand how each of three core reasons might be effecting your marriage.
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In Marriage as Survival I point out that for most of human history people married [...]

Marriage as Enrichment

Formatting issues abound in Blogger – line spacing issues… weird font size changes, etc…. I’ve looked into other blogging platforms, and concluded that Blogger has about the same number of issues as the others. If there are any experts out there who have figured out how to minimize the formatting problems with Blogger, I’ll be [...]

Marriage as Survival: I marry in order to stay alive.

This post is a continuation of thoughts I began to develop in posts on December 6 and 13 of last year (2007)

Are you aware of how your survival issues impact your marriage?
For most of human history the main goal of marriage was survival. The survival of individuals, the survival of clans, the survival of [...]

Marriage as Survival, Enrichment, and/or Formation

Every one knows the statistics: Half of all marriages end in divorce. Conclusion: Marriage is hard (Yes, I needed a Ph.D. to figure this out).
Therapists basically know what happens when marriage fails. We know that some couples have no business getting married in the first place. We know that some couples do not have the [...]

50 Things Project: Ready for Field Testing

You still with me?

DOWNLOAD A PDF COPY OF THE INVENTORY HERE.

TAKES ABOUT AN HOUR: Holly and I sat down and went through the inventory. It took us about 15 minutes to take it, and then we spent another 35 or 40 minutes going over it (which involved a lot of laughter and comments like, [...]

50 Things You Should Know about Your Spouse: Next Step

I’M SURPRISED! I GOT TONS OF SUGGESTIONS.
THANK YOU SO MUCH!
This “inventory” has been developed by ignoring virtually all rules regarding proper scientific research and methodology. In other words, I got all your great suggestions, picked the ones I really liked, and dumped the others.
However, I don’t mean to suggest that I had no semi-objective [...]