A few more ideas on how we develop into mature humans have been taking shape for me….
Its generally accepted that we develop in all areas of life. All this means is that we do not start out growed up. Certain things have to happen for us to get there. It is also generally accepted that a part of development is natural, which is to say that it sort of occurs on its own. For example, once a baby is born, the brain starts to develop so that, over time, a child is able to learn language, math, etc…
The other part of development, however, is what I would refer to as intentional. By this I mean that there are certain choices that a person has to intentionally make if he is going to mature. For example, a person must decide if she is going to pursue professional goals by stepping on whomever gets in her way, or if she is going to pursue success while taking into consideration the needs of those around her. This is a choice.
Recently is has become clearer to me that individuals must choose whether or not they are going to live according to one of these three core values:
– survival: My goal is to keep myself alive.
– enrichment: My goal is to be happy.
– formation: My goal is to be mature.
Everything is ALWAYS a lot more complicated that a few pithy ideas can convey, but I am seeing more clearly that my clients are almost all wrestling with which of these three core values to intentionally choose. There’s no question that the ways in which one deals with life will virtually be determined by this choice.